Help & Guidance
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Nature and Purpose of Grief
"Grief is reaching out for someone who's always been there, only to find when you need them the most, one last time, they're gone"
The death of a loved one is life's most painful event. People's reactions to death remains one of society's least understood and most off-limits topics for discussion. Oftentimes, grievers are left totally alone in dealing with their pain, loneliness, and isolation.
Grief is a natural emotion that follows death, and to one degree or another, it hurts. It is like an open wound which must heal.
At times, it seems as if this healing will never happen. But, sometimes the healing process can take much less time than we have been led to believe. Grieving is purely an individual experience.
The ultimate goal of bereavement is to take you beyond your initial reactions to the loss. The therapeutic purpose of grief and mourning is to get you to the place where you can live with the loss in a healthy manner, after having made the necessary changes to do so. What must you do to get to this point? You must:
The bottom line of this active work of grief and mourning, therefore, is to help you recognize that your loved one is gone. Then you must make the necessary internal, psychological changes, as well as the necessary external, social changes, to accommodate this reality. And it all takes time.
We are here to help you through all the moments after loss.
The Experience of Grieving – The Grief Process
When we experience a major loss, grief is the normal and natural way our mind and body react. Everyone grieves differently. And at the same time there are common patterns people tend to share.
For example, someone experiencing grief usually moves through a series of emotional stages, such as shock, numbness, guilt, anger and denial. And physical symptoms of grief are typical too. They can include: sleeplessness, inability to eat or concentrate, lack of energy, and lack of interest in activities previously enjoyed.
Time always plays an important role in the grief process. As the days, weeks and months go by, the person who is experiencing loss moves through emotional and physical reactions that normally lead toward acceptance, healing and getting on with life as fully as possible.
Seeking Guidance: Grief Counseling
Sometimes a person can become overwhelmed or bogged down in the grieving process. Serious losses are never easy to deal with, but someone who is having trouble beginning to actively re-engage in life after a few months should consider getting professional help.
The links below go even deeper into the subject of handling death and grief.
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